Learning Styles – Part I
When you have something new that needs to be assembled how do you approach the task?
Are you the person who reads the direction pamphlet carefully before beginning to assemble the pieces?
Are you the person who looks at the pictures and can figure it out from there?
Are you the person who disregards the instructions for assembly and just puts the object together by trial and error?
The way you approach this task tells you something about your “learning style”. That is, when learning something new, how do you prefer to have the information presented to you. One of the ways of sorting our learning styles is by looking at three modes of presentation: auditory, visual and kinesthetic. Most of us are a combination of all three with some degree of preference for one style.
Children, too, have a preferred style of learning. When new information or concepts are presented in a way that matches their learning style they are more likely to learn the information quicker and retain it longer.
The auditory learner is the child who prefers to listen and talk. He/she picks up an enormous amount of information by listening and participating in conversations and group discussions. Lecture, large group and small group discussions work well for this student.When reviewing for tests try the following strategies:
¯Summarize the information in a discussion with a parent
¯Make silly mnemonic devices (sentences) for memorizing lists of names or places. For example, No Skaters Fall (To keep three countries of Scandinavia in the right order west to east, Norway, Sweden, Finland)
¯Use a tape recorder to dictate information then listen to it
¯Let the child be the character or historical figure and answer questions based on information from the chapter (i.e King Tut, describe the tools that your workers use.)
To get an idea of what your learning style is or what your child’s might be:
Parent- www.chaminade.org/inspire/learnstl.htm
Student- www.howtolearn.com ~ log on as “student” not parent or teacher
Look for information about the visual and kinesthetic learner in next week’s newsletter.
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Learning Styles – Part II
The visual learner prefers to see as much as possible when learning new information or concepts. This is the student who spends time looking at the pictures, maps, or diagrams. He/she organizes information more readily when it can be related to a visual image. The more familiar the image the quicker the student will be able to make sense of the information and the longer he/she will remember it.
Grouping information by color- names in one color, dates in a second color, places in a third color. Colors can be used to “chunk” or group information chronologically, by location or by topic.
Drawing a picture of the main ideas- for example, when studying Ancient Rome have the student put the words “Ancient Rome” in the middle of the page and draw a picture in each corner that illustrates something about an important person from that period of time (Julius Caesar, Cleopatra, Augustus Caesar). Label the drawing with the name of the person. Students need to decide what they want to draw but they should be able to explain to you why they chose to draw that picture.
When a student is having difficulty remembering the steps in math – for example, long division. Use a post-it note with the symbols for multiply, subtract, and an arrow down for “bring down”. Keep it short and visual!
Students throughout the grades are taught “webbing” as a way to organize their ideas when writing a story. They put the topic in the middle in a box or a circle and then put their related ideas on lines extending from the topic. Numbering the lines provides a sequence for the sentences of the paragraph or paragraphs of the story.
When memorizing the maps use the shape and location of a country to help the student remember it. Democratic Republic of the Congo is one of the largest countries in Africa and it has the longest name. Look for words within a word or certain letters in names to help relate places such as Namib Desert is in Namibia or “Z” countries are all together in the southeast part of Africa (Tanzania, Mozambique, Zambia, Zimbabwe, Swaziland).
Remember: for a student who is a strong visual learner the more words you use to “help” him or her the more you will confuse the student. Often students will “shut down” if the teacher, parent or tutor is using too many words to explain a concept.
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Learning Styles – Part III
The kinesthetic learning learns by moving and doing. This is the person who, given an item to assemble, would prefer to disregard written directions or oral instructions and just work with the pieces and figure it out. It’s the student who always needs to “handle” or “touch” the materials that are used to demonstrate a concept.
What type of movement does the student enjoy? What seems to come “naturally”? It may be jumping rope, bouncing a basketball, marching, jogging or tapping out a rhythm on the table. Allow the student to do this type of movement when trying to memorize information.
Using the tiles from Scrabble to move around and create spelling words may help the child to remember the words.
In the primary grades when the “wh” words can be confusing to remember (when, what, where, why). Have the student trace the letters with his/her finger to focus attention on the shape of the word.
Any time the student can manipulate materials, for example puzzle pieces, he/she will enjoy the activity more, pay attention to the information and remember it longer. When working on the maps trace the countries, label them, cut them out and put it together. Chunking the countries, northern, central, southern will make the memorization less overwhelming and more manageable.
Exaggerated hand movements, dance or pantomime are a good way for students to remember characters or action in a story and events in history.
Index cards with information from science or social studies that needs to be sequenced can be written out then shuffled and sorted.
Remember: While parents, teachers, and volunteers might encourage students to “sit quietly” in order to read or study, this strategy goes against the learning style of the kinesthetic learner. The more he/she moves the quicker the material is understood and the longer it is retained.
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WELCOME
TO A NEW YEAR
The beginning of a new school
year is a great time to talk to your child about goals for the year.
How will this year be different from last year? What new things do they
want to learn? Are there new activities they want to try? What about
getting to know a few new people? Most children are open to new ideas,
new experiences and new people. Many adults prefer to stay within a
comfort zone with a limited openness to anyone or anything new. Children
take their cues from the adults around them, particularly their parents.
They listen somewhat to your words but they are much more impressed
by what you do. As we being this school year think about how your child
sees your openness to new ideas, new experiences and new people.
Take advantage of opportunities to model for your children how to
meet someone new.
Try new experiences-get involved-just
as we encourage children to join in extracurricular activities, the
volunteer opportunities here at school and in the parish offer parents.
Talk with your child about
making new friends.
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Is there a student who
is new to Nativity in their class? How can he/she get to know the
new student?
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Is there someone in class
that he/she would like to get to know? How can he/she use time before
school, at lunch or on the playground to begin to make a new friend?
Talk with your child about
trying a different after school activity.
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Is this the year to try
a new sport or something in the arts?
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Find out what will be
available at school this year (scouts, sports, drama) and talk about
how the activities might fit in his/her schedule
The
value of being open to new experiences and to new friends is priceless
for both you and your child.
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STRESS
AND THE SCHOOL AGED CHILD
How can an elementary
school age child feel so stressed that they are
having a difficult time coping with day-to-day activities at
school and at home? Most parents would think that young children
just dont get that stressed. More and more, however, we
find children in kindergarten through 8th grade having stress
reactions or anxiety attacks.
Stress can be defined as the bodys nonspecific response
to the demands made on it. It can be caused by a positive as
well as a negative stimulus. For example, while a child may
be excited about moving to a new house because it is larger
and he/she will have his/her own bedroom or a bigger yard the
fact that this involves a change from the familiar to the unfamiliar
can cause stress. Changes for parents, such as a new job, can
also cause some stress for the child because there may be a
change in family routines.
Stress means different things to different people. Almost anything
can cause a stressful reaction in someone, since situations
that are not stressful to one person may cause another to feel
very stressed. Genetic factors, the differences in peoples
personalities, in their tolerance for ambiguity, in their ability
to cope with change and in their motivation can affect individual
reactions to particular stressors.
Children who are experiencing stress may have difficulty concentrating,
complain of headaches, stomachaches, problems sleeping, exhibit
teeth grinding, facial tics, crying over little things,
or exhibit school phobia.
The most common school related causes of stress among elementary
age children are: embarrassment, grades (especially report card
grades), giving a report in school, significant changes in peer
relationships, being retained, losing in a game.
The most common home related causes of stress among elementary
age children are: losing a parent, parental fights, parent in
the hospital, moving, getting lost, new baby sibling, having
an operation.
While certain amount of stress can be a motivator to study more
or practice a skill, parents need to watch for times when their
child is having a reaction to stress that is more intense or
lasting longer than they might expect and is interfering with
the childs ability to study, interact with friends or
enjoy school. Report cards, the holidays, or being home from
school for long breaks such as Thanksgiving and Christmas can
add to other family stresses. If you know of changes that may
be happening in the family or possible school situations that
are particularly stressful for your child please talk to your
childs teacher or ask for a team meeting so that we can
be proactive in helping your child to develop coping strategies.
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RUBRICS:
WHAT PARENTS SHOULD KNOW
What is a rubric?
A rubric is a set of scoring guidelines. It provides a uniform
set of defined criteria or guidelines that will be used to judge
student work.
When do teachers use rubrics?
Rubrics are used for generally for projects or assignments that
do not have a definitive answer key. When the teachers
assessment might otherwise be subjective a rubric makes it clear
what the grade will be based on.
What does a rubric look like?
Usually a rubric looks like a chart and has three or more dimensions
with a scale of values rating each dimension. For example in
a piece of creative writing the dimensions might be: organization,
details, voice and mechanics. There would be a rating of points
for each dimension. An example of a rating for mechanics might
be:
| Criterion |
Quality:
4 points |
3 points |
2 points |
1 point |
| Organization |
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| Voice |
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| Details |
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| Mechanics |
Uses quotation marks, commas,
colons correctly; no errors in spelling or grammar.
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Uses some quotation marks,
commas, colons, but with some errors in usage; no errors
in spelling or grammar. |
Uses simple punctuation correctly;
some spelling and/or grammor errors.
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Lacks consistent use of punctuation;
several errors in spelling and/ or grammar. |
Why do teachers
use a rubric?
Rubrics can be a powerful tool for teaching and assessment.
They make the teachers expectations clear to the student.
Teachers are able to highlight a students strengths and
areas that need improvement. Additionally, they can be used
to help a student see his/her progress in the quality of his/her
work when scores are compared from assignment to assignment
across the year. Rubrics also help students to begin to be able
to evaluate their own work, monitor their own progress and take
responsibility for making the changes necessary to improve their
grades.
What grades use rubrics?
At Nativity students are introduced to rubrics in the last half
of the second grade, usually for a project that is done in class.
Third graders use rubrics for creative writing and occassionally
for a project done in class. These rubrics are a guide for the
students to evaluate their own work not for a grade. In fourth
through eighth grades students will receive rubrics when a project
is assigned. This tells the student how his/her work will be
evaluated for a grade. Parents should look for a rubric sheet
to accompany the assignment of a project.
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HELPING
YOUR CHILD WITH HIGHER LEVEL THINKING SKILLS
In order to learn
about the world around us beyond memorizing "facts"
children need to be taught to use higher level thinking skills.
At Nativity, the teachers use Blooms Taxonomy as a framework
for guiding students as they think about concepts beyond the
basic facts. These skills need to be taught, modeled, practiced
and demonstrated over several years in a variety of subjects
before they truly become a habitual way of thinking. You can
help your child to think "beyond the facts" by asking
questions and modeling answers about everyday places and experiences.
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Description |
Sample Questions |
| Knowledge |
Ability to remember something
previously learned. (Tell, recite, list, define, locate) |
- Name some kinds of cars.
- What are some of the foods that
we find in a grocery store?
- What kind of house did the pioneers
live in?
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| Comprehension |
Demonstrate
basic understanding of concepts. (Put into other words, explain,
summarize) |
- What is a car?
- Why do we have grocery stores?
- What is a house?
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| Application |
Transfer knowledge in
learned in one situation to another. (Demonstrate, use guides, maps,
build, cook) |
- What items does a vehicle need
to be considered a car?
- What do you know about fresh fruits
and vegetables that you would have to consider in designing
a grocery store?
- Why were the houses of the pioneers
made of logs?
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| Analysis |
Understand how parts relate
to a whole. (Classify, compare, contrast, categorize) |
- What are the pros/cons of a large
car versus a small car?
- Compare the farmers market, to
Kroger and Meijer.
- Why did the materials for making
houses change over the years?
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| Synthesis |
Re-form individual parts
to make a new whole. (Design, invent, create, forecast) |
- Invent your own car considering
cost, type of fuel, passenger size, etc.
- Design your own grocery store.
- How do you think houses will look
in the future? Why?
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| Evaluation |
Judge the value of something
using a criteria. Support your judgment. (Evaluate, give an opinion,
critique) |
- Why is your car better than the
cars that are currently on the market?
- What would teens, parents, senior
citizens, like about your grocery store?
- Are multiple family dwellings
a better use of our resources than single family dwellings?
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SCHOOL
PSYCHOLOGIST AT NATIVITY
This year I am entering my
29th year as a school psychologist and my 18th year at Nativity School.
I am hired by Cincinnati Public Schools to work in nonpublic schools.
The position is paid for through auxiliary monies, which is state money
that provides for support services personnel, textbooks and other educational
materials. I am at Nativity on Wednesdays and Fridays and at Purcell
Marian High School on Mondays, Thursdays and alternate Tuesdays.
My job here at Nativity includes a wide variety of activities including:
Consultation with parents Parents are welcome to call
for " a listening ear" when they have concerns about their
childs academic skills, behavior at school or at home, or when
family issues arise, e.g. divorce, parent loss of job, serious illness
in the family.
Consultation with teachers Time is spent collaborating
with teachers when they are concerned about a students achievement,
social skills or emotional status. Very often this involves providing
information regarding the students background, on past intervention
strategies that have been helpful or working together to develop new
intervention strategies.
Team approach Nativity uses a team approach to problem
solving any concerns about students. A parent or teacher can request
a team meeting at any time during the school year. The team generally
includes: parents, teachers, principal, speech pathologist and/or remedial
reading teacher if she is working with the student, any support services
hired by the parent and myself. Some teams meet regularly, every 5-6
weeks throughout the year for ongoing support for the student.
Monitor, analyze and interpret group testing The students
in grades 2, 4, 6,and 8 take the Terra Nova Achievement Tests every
October. When the results are returned in December this information
is analyzed to highlight individual student needs as well as academic
trends within and across grades. Interpretation of the results is presented
at the January parent meetings. I am also available to meet with individual
parents regarding an analysis of their childs performance on the
Terra Novas.
Multifactored evaluations Sometimes,
after intervention strategies have been tried, the team needs more information
regarding a students potential and skills. Testing, which may
include an assessment of ability, achievement in reading, math, written
language, social and emotional status and fine motor skills is part
of my job.
Study skills Students who may struggle
with organization, comprehension of directions or planning and studying
for tests need extra assistance. I am available to work with students,
on a short-term basis, to provide some techniques in this area.
Individual counseling Getting along
with other students in class, having self-confidence, dealing with the
death of a grandparent or friend, these are some of the issues that
cause parents to ask me to talk to their child. Each case is assessed
individually, and because of the limited amount of time in my schedule,
I can work with students only on a short-term basis. If long-term counseling
or family counseling is needed than a referral to an outside counselor
or agency is considered.
Collaboration with community agencies and resources Cincinnati
has many resources for children ranging from Childrens Hospital
to individual tutors and counselors. Part of my job is to be a liaison
for the Nativity staff and outside support services. Good communication
among all of the people working with a student can be time consuming
but we are much more effective in helping the student when we work together!
Entrance Screening An academic screening is done with
all new students from kindergarten through eighth grade. The kindergarten
and first grade screenings are done in collaboration with the kindergarten
and first grade teachers.
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MATH
IN OUR LIVES
Many of us tend to think that if our children just learn to read theyll
be fine. Math is not that important. After all, there are calculators
and computers that do math for us. The reality is that now, more than
ever, it is important for children to understand math. What math operation
(add, subtract, multiply, divide) do we need to use? Does the answer
on the calculator or cash register seem right?
No matter how much you liked or disliked math when you were in school
the "fact" is that math is a part of our lives everyday. Is
15% off a good sale at the department store. Is 15% interest on a credit
card a good deal? The math skills that we learn in the elementary grades
will serve us for a lifetime. It is part of balancing a checkbook, cooking,
building bookshelves, comparing the price at different gas stations,
figuring out how much cheese to buy for lunches, calculating the tip
you leave for a server or how much time it takes to drop off the carpool
kids and get to the store. We cant get away from math. We use
it to compare, estimate, measure and plan.
This year the faculty and staff at Nativity invite you to join them
in helping your child to see that math is as important as reading. In
the classroom these skills will be introduced and reinforced through
in a variety of activities from math workbook pages and old-fashioned
games (cards, board games, pick-up sticks) to math software and math
journaling.
At home, we would ask you to use "teachable moments" to make
sure that math is a part of your childs experiences outside of
school. We want our students to know that math is not just something
that we learn because "we have to". It is useful, important
and maybe even fun!
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READ!
READ! READ!
The
single most important activity for building the knowledge required for
eventual success in reading is reading aloud to children. While this conclusion was written approximately twenty years ago, as
a result of a landmark study on children and reading (Becoming a Nation
of Readers), the finding still stands as a primary recommendation to
parents who want to encourage their children to become good readers.
Many parents believe that once a child learns to read then he/she should
read on his/her own. Reading aloud to your child (not taking turns
or having him/her read aloud to you) or reading a book with your child
is important throughout the grade school years.
Reading aloud to your child-
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Helps him/her to gain
knowledge of things, people and places that he/she is less likely
to acquire from any other source.
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Helps with reading comprehension,
which depends on the understanding of words. When you read to your
child you recognize words that he/she may not know and can take the
time to explain the words. You can then use the words at other times
in conversation so that your childs vocabulary is truly enriched.
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Helps your child to understand
that the language used in books is different from what we use when
we speak. It is more complex and often more specific, full of adjectives
and adverbs. When your child listens to these language patterns he/she
becomes more familiar and more comfortable with them. He/she is more
likely to use them when writing.
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Helps your child to learn
about the structure of stories. When you read aloud you tend to talk
about the story. You note the title, the characters, the characters,
feelings, surprises, humor. You help your child to predict what might
come next and why. These are important skills for comprehension.
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Helps your child to think
of reading as a pleasurable activity. Children take their cues from
parents. If reading is a priority, something you make time for and
appear to enjoy, then there is a good chance that your child will
find it enjoyable.
Ideas for older students-
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Many intermediate grade
and junior high level students enjoy listening to a parent read aloud.
For those who dont, consider getting two or three copies of
a book, read it on your own, then make a lunch date and discuss the
chapters as you read it.
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Form a book club with
a few junior high friends and their parents.
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There are so many magazines
written with the special interests of teens in mind. Take the time
to look for one that your child might enjoy and take it along to the
pool or keep it in the car for easy entertainment.
Be sure that your child sees you reading!
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HELPING
CHILDREN COPE WITH THE WAR
Be aware of your own feelings.
Before you can help you child talk about the war and their related concerns
take time to assess your own thoughts and feelings. Children often attend
to the body language and tone of voice of parents rather than the message
in the words you use. If you are feeling anxious or angry, your child
will see that no matter what you say.
Take time to listen. Many children will experience a wide range of feelings
including fear, anger or confusion. Acknowledge the feelings. Empathize
with the feelings. Let them know that sometimes you feel the same way
and that these feelings are normal and expected.
Answer questions honestly. There is a lot that we dont know about
this war. There are no guarantees with any war. It is ok to say, "We
dont know." Stay with facts such as, "Our troops are
well trained and they will do the best they can."
Observe your child at play. It is not unusual for children to play "war"
during times of war. When all of their play is war-centered, however,
they can loose sight of the reality of war. If you see your child "playing
war" frequently, you may want to remind him/her of the other games
(or redirect towards other games) that he/she enjoys.
Consider turning off the TV. The media coverage of the war in Afghanistan
is unprecedented. Imbedded reporters providing information, sometime
while under fire, news leads during commercial time and news as it happens
across the bottom of the screen keep the war in front of us constantly.
It is important to stay informed but such coverage may heighten the
anxiety of both children and adults. In addition, young children often
have difficulty discriminating when and where events on TV are happening.
Older children may need an adult perspective to help them understand
what they are seeing.
Encourage your child to be sensitive to the feelings of others. Help
your child to understand that the family members of classmates and neighborhood
friends may be in the military. The family members may be away from
home for long periods of time with no phone calls or letters home. Discuss
ways that your child can "be a good friend".
Do something positive. Think about the family members of the military
that are in your neighborhood or parish. Is there something you can
do to help them? Consider babysitting, running an errand, bringing over
a meal or cutting the lawn for moms that may be here without spouses.
Cards, letters and small packages for members of the military may also
be appreciated.
Keep teachers informed. The topic of the war in Afghanistan may be discussed
in school in any number of classes or situations. Teachers try to discuss
such topics with a great deal of sensitivity. If your child is having
a unique or intense response to the war please let his/her teacher know
about it.
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ATTENTION DEFICT DISORDER
What is
Attention Deficit Disorder?
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, "ADHD is a condition
of the brain that makes it difficult for children to control their behavior.
It is one of the most common chronic conditions of childhood, affecting
4%-12% of school-aged children." There are three primary behaviorial
symptoms: inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity.
Are there different types of ADHD?
Children may have "inattentive" only where the symptoms include:
a hard time paying attention, seems to not listen, does not follow through
on instructions, is disorganized, loses things, forgets things, does
not seem to care about details or makes careless mistakes. "Hyperactive/Impulsive"
children can often pay attention by seem to be "driven by a motor".
They cannot stay seated, talk too much, run, jump, and climb when it
is not appropriate for the setting and have difficulty playing quietly.
The third type of ADHD includes inattentive, hyperactive and impulsive
symptoms.
Dont all children have lots of energy and act impulsive?
Yes! It is normal for all children to be energetic and to act impulsive
or "hyperactive" from time to time. In addition, children
may have times when they seem to be daydreaming or inattentive. This
may be a reaction to stress, fatigue or lack of interest in a particular
subject. Parents should consider the issue of attention deficit if your
child is six years of age or older and has shown symptoms of ADD on
a regular basis for more than six months.
How is ADD diagnosed?
There is no single test for ADD. It is a medical diagnosis based on
behavior at home and at school. Parents need to begin with a consultation
with the pediatrician. Generally the pediatrician will want to do a
physical and will want some questionnaires completed by teachers and
parents. He/She may request other testing or observations from the school
psychologist in order to rule out emotional or learning problems.
What can be done at school to help the child with ADD?
Educational interventions include a wide range of accommodations to
help children with organization and paying attention at school. Interventions
at school are generally designed for each child individually and are
reassessed periodically.
What about medication?
The decision to use medication is between the parent and the childs
physician. While most of the medications used are stimulants there is
a new medication that is not a stimulant. The most typical medications
used are either short-acting (in the system for about 3 hours) or long-acting
(in the system for about 6-8 hours).
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HELPING
CHILDREN TO COPE WITH TRAUMATIC EVENTS
Unexpected events and/or events that require adapting
to long-term changes in the life of a child can be very traumatic. They
cause a type of stress that, if not addressed, can interfere with the
childs ability to learn, to maintain friendships and to cope with
the everyday problems of life.
While divorce and dealing with the illness or death of a friend or family
member are usually considered the most difficult traumas of childhood
there are other events that may cause significant stress for a child.
Examples of such situations are: moving to a new school, home or city,
a change in a parents job that takes them away from home for days
at a time, the introduction of a potential stepparent, parents
loss of job, or a new baby in the family.
A child may choose to avoid coping with the traumatic event through
the use of ...
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Denial - pretending nothing
has changed sometimes using imaginary friends or magical beliefs
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Regression -suddenly acting
like a much younger child becoming demanding and overly dependent
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Withdrawal taking
themselves mentally or physically away, daydreaming, becoming overly
attached to pets
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Impulsive acting out
in an effort to stop thinking about the painful event they stop thinking
about anything, including consequences of actions. This may include
inappropriate humor, sudden disrespect of adults or misplaced anger.
As with any life skill, children
need to be taught to coping skills. Learning a new skill takes time,
practice and patience. Parents need to invest the time with the child
when they are trying to encourage positive coping skills.
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Get physical walking,
running, swimming, riding a bike, doing aerobics or another sport
activity that is not competitive.
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Take time to relax- consider
yoga, listening to music, drawing, painting, reading
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Let it out talking
about the event or keeping a journal (with words or pictures)
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When you talk with your
child provide honest information in age appropriate terms.
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Model positive coping
strategies because children learn by watching and imitating the adults
in their environment.
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Childrens books
can be useful tools for stimulating discussion on difficult issues.
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If a traumatic event is
affecting the whole family a child may feel more comfortable talking
with an adult extended family member or friend of the family about
his/her thoughts and feelings.
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Consult a mental health
professional if you see negative coping strategies interfering with
academics or social interactions and lasting more than a few weeks.
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PEER RELATIONSHIPS
Every parent wants their child
to have friends and to get along with other children in the family,
in the neighborhood and at school. Parents want their children to develop
strong physical, cognitive, emotional and social skills. So, what role
can parents play in helping their child to have friends, to get along
with others?
Home is the first place that we learn to get along with others. Siblings
and cousins can help children to learn and refine social skills. Siblings
and extended family members provide children with multiple opportunities
to learn to:
What is the patterns of development
of peer relationships?
Ages 5-7 - Most kindergartners through second graders will say
that a friend is someone who "plays with me, shares materials/toys
and helps me." Children at this age have a great deal of tolerance
for difference. Further, they will take their cues from the adults around
them. So parents can orchestrate opportunities for sharing, helping
and playing together and children will generally go along with the parents
plan.
Ages 8-11 - By the end of third grade through sixth grade children
become very aware of differences. They are growing physically, cognitively
and emotionally at different rates. Friendships are often based on (physical,
cognitive, emotional) similarities and may change daily. This may be
the first time a child experiences someone "not wanting to be his/her
friend". Children of this age are less likely to let parents intervene
in their social lives.
Ages 12-14 - Differences and "fitting in" continue
to be an issue through junior high but the rate of individual growth
(physical, cognitive and emotional) has generally evened out such that
friendships become more stable. To a 7th or 8th grader a friend is someone
who listens, understands, and has the same interests. Most junior high
students understand that not everyone in the class needs to be a good
friend. Since junior high age students may not be taking advice from
parents talking with an objective third party (aunt, uncle, grandparent,
neighbor, counselor) may be helpful for the student who is struggling
with peer relationships at this age.
What can parents do to encourage their child to develop positive peer
relationships?
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Dont panic when
your child says, "I have no friends." Be aware of "normal"
development in peer relationships.
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Recognize the positive
"gifts" of others and teach your child to do the same.
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Help child look at his/her
personality characteristics that may interfere with positive peer
relationships (bossy, easily frustrated, hyperactive, quick temper,
tense, shy, excessive worrier). If necessary, consult with a counselor
for strategies to modify these tendencies.
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Use your own relationships
to model solving interpersonal problems with ways that are respectful,
productive and not aggressive.
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Consider scouts, sports,
theater, summer camps and other opportunities for your child to be
with peers and practice social skills.
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EDUCATIONAL
TOYS?
Its hard to believe
that its time to shop for Christmas gifts. As the need for gift
ideas for the kids becomes more pressing I thought you might like a
few suggestions that dont require a computer, a CD player or batteries
of any kind. The truth is that there is a lot of educational value in
the "old" tried and true toys and games. Here are some of
my favorites:
Board Games - Learning to play a board game teaches patience, turn-taking,
strategies such as predicting and planning ahead and following multiple
step rules and directions. Children in the primary grades enjoy Chutes
and Ladders, Candy Land, Connect Four and Checkers. Intermediate grades
generally like Sorry, Parcheesi, Battleship or Clue. Monopoly, Risk,
Chess and Trivial Pursuit are great for junior high age.
Puzzles - All puzzles encourage visual analysis and attention
to visual detail. This is a fun way to encourage the child who is very
verbal to strengthen visual skills or to recognize the child who is
already strong in the area of visual skills. Choose puzzles by the size
and number of pieces. Usually the age guidelines are on the box. Remember,
large puzzles do not need to be completed in an afternoon. Find a place
where you can leave it out and work on it over a few weeks.
Arts and Crafts A great way to encourage
creativity and to help strengthen fine motor skills and attention span.
Arts and crafts can often be given away as gifts providing an extra
motivation to complete the task. Some classic toys in this category
include: sewing cards, potholder looms, rug making, cross stitch kits,
model planes/cars/boats, Lite Brite, modeling clay, PlayDoh, finger
paints, fashion plates, Etch-A-Sketch, a supply of construction paper,
crayons and markers.
Verbal Skills These games provide
a fun way to build vocabulary and language skills. Scrabble Jr., Boggle,
Outburst, Guess Words, Pictionary and 20 Questions are a few to consider.
BOOKS! BOOKS! BOOKS! Any salesperson
in the childrens section of a bookstore will be able to point
you towards a wonderful world of entertainment. You may want a book
on a particular topic of interest or just a great story. Be sure to
ask about Caldacott Award winners, Coretta Scott King Award Winners
and Newberry Award Winners. If your child is in the older grades get
two copies and read it together (separately) so that you can discuss
the chapters. Magazine subscriptions are also a great way to get your
child interested in reading. Check with the school librarian or your
neighborhood librarian to get an idea of the magazines that are available
for children with almost any interest and any age and reading level.
REMEMBER The real gift with all
of these toys and games is your taking the time to enjoy them with your
child. You provide the model for taking turns, following the rules,
and being a good winner or loser. Make time together (without the TV)
a regular event and the value is priceless!
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A WORD (OR TWO) ABOUT REPORT
CARDS
Its hard to believe that
the first quarter has ended and report cards will soon be in your hands.
The way that you talk to your child about grades can encourage or discourage
him/her and most certainly effect his/her self-esteem. The report card
is meant to provide an evaluation of your childs progress and a
means of communication between school and home. It is not meant to be
your childs defining moment! We all have strengths and weaknesses,
only some of which we demonstrate in academic settings.
DO NOT
- Talk about grades in terms of "good
grades" and "bad grades". To a child that translates
to, "Im good because I got good grades." or "Im
bad. I got bad grades."
DO
- Explain the report card to your child.
What do the letters (S+, S, N, U) mean? What is average (Just in case
youve forgotten C is average no B!)? What is "effort"?
What do the check marks mean? Read/explain the teachers comments
to your child.
- Talk about report card grades as including
all of their work (tests, quizzes, homework, projects). Sometimes
a subject is very difficult for a student and he/she may not get an
A but he/she can still be proud of a C or a D because he/she worked
hard. Sometimes a subject is easy and he/she should have had an A
or a B but he/she got a C.
What grade are you the proudest of/happiest with? What grade surprises
you? Why? What grade is the most disappointing to you? What do you
think caused you to get this grade? You may need to model this process.
For example, "Im the happiest with this C in science because
you had a hard time with the tests and you pulled your grade up with
all the time you put into the projects."
- Make a plan. If grades for all subjects,
effort and personal development look great what does your child need
to do second quarter to keep similar grades? If there are areas to
improve what does he/she need to do.
What grade or area (check marks in personal development) would your child
like to improve? Keep it simple. Have him/her pick just one or two areas.
Your child is more likely to continue to work on improving if he/she has
some say in the decision. It may not be the area that you would have picked
but you have all year to work on other areas. Brainstorm ways to improve
the skill or behavior and make a plan that you can support.
The teacher or other team members
(Dr. Buchino, Mr. Herring) are available if
you need ideas for a plan to improve skills or behavior.
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TEACHING CHILDREN RESPONSIBILITY
If you ask
parents what type
of person they would like their child(ren) to be when they grow up most
of them would include responsible as part of the description.
So how does that happen? How do carefree toddlers and children enjoy their
childhood and still grow up to be responsible adults ? Parents of adolescents
reading this might be thinking, I d be happy with a reasonably responsible
teen right now!
Raising a child who is responsible happens in the same way that you raise
a child who is caring or thoughtful. It s a family value that is modeled,
discussed, and expected. Children learn responsibility from very early
ages when they see responsibility in the actions of parents and other
caretakers. Parents talk about responsible actions of those at home and
in the community. Responsibility is presented in small, age appropriate
ways
Chores at home are a simple example of ways to build responsibility from
ages 4 to 18. They should not be a punishment. Doing some of the jobs
around the house is a way that each family member helps. We share in the
work and we share in the play.
Primary age children - help with laundry by folding towels, matching
socks, helping to set the table, pick up toys, put clothes in the hamper,
empty wastebaskets.
Intermediate age children - help with laundry by folding clothes,
load/unload the dishwasher, help dry the dishes, rake the leaves, straighten
their room, make their bed, take the sheets off for laundry day, bring
out the trash, weed the garden, feed a pet, help an aging neighbor with
yard work.
Junior high age children - do their own laundry, set the table,
dust, vacuum, clean their room, mow the lawn, watch/entertain younger
children so parents can get work done at home, take care of a pet.
Responsible children learn to do things for themselves and others gaining
satisfaction and self-confidence from the accomplishment. From the five
year old who can make his/her own sandwich or dress him/herself to the
teen who can cook dinner and buy his/her own clothes. Providing guidance,
praise and permission to make mistakes is important.
Keep in mind: before requiring a child to be responsible for
an activity/chore he/she needs to be taught the skill (Don t assume he/she
knows what to do because he/she has seen you do it 1000 times!) and know
clearly what is expected (What should his/her room look like for you to
consider it clean ). If you choose to have a reward/punishment (allowance,
no TV) attached, it should be clearly explained and then you must stick
to it!
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LET'S GET ORGANIZED
As
adults we know the value of having some sense of organization as we try
to accomplish all of the tasks of the day and all of the meetings obligations
of the week. Children, from preschool through high school need to learn
to organize their time, materials, and the place around them. The predictability
that results from knowing when something needs to be done and how to do
it provide a level comfort and security that is important for children,
particularly when they are learning so much each day. The beginning of
the school year presents the perfect opportunity for parents to begin
new daily and weekly routines that help children organize their time and
space.
Organization
for kindergartners and primary age students needs to be simple and clear.
What is the morning routine? Where does the backpack go after school?
Where do messages from school go? What is the evening routine? Young children
have little sense of time. This is a concept that teachers work on each
day with the use of the clock, the calendar, and a chart of the time of
daily activities. A beginning step in learning to organize time might
include a simple calendar for the week marking days with special activities
such as: physical education (bring gym clothes), scout meetings, sports
practices/games, or after school lessons. It is also important for having
the same time and place for doing homework.
Students
in the intermediate grades need to continue with the routines of the primary
grades with the understanding that there are usually more demands on their
time from home and school. Homework will include not only written assignments
but also study time. That is, teachers will the students to re-read or
review part of a chapter where there is no written assignment. Students
who try to review a chapter the night before a test will not be successful.
Long term assignments and projects, with 2-4 weeks notice, are also part
of the need to plan. Parents may want to help their intermediate level
child to mark a calendar for the month so that he/she can see what projects
or tests are coming up and what family or extracurricular events need
to factored in to the plan. The students then need to be responsible for
checking their calendar.
In junior high students are working with four teachers for their core
subjects. It is, therefore, not unusual for students to have two tests
on a particular day. Additionally, socializing with friends becomes an
important part of life outside of school. Planning ahead for projects
and studying/ reviewing for tests and quizzes, therefore, is crucial for
academic success. Junior high students also need to consider the importance
of tests such as the Terra Nova achievement tests in October, high school
placement tests in December and the 7th grade writing proficiency test.
High schools look at grades from 6th, 7th and 8th grades as well as the
results of the 6th and 8th grade Terra Novas. Junior high students may,
therefore, want to look at a calendar of the semester in planning study
time, high school visits, extracurricular activities and time to socialize
with friends.
All Nativity
students in grade s three through eight have assignment notebooks for
recording daily homework and long term assignments. Time is given in each
class for students to write down assignments. At the beginning of the
year parents may want to check the notebook and your child s work to be
sure that all work is completed.
One of the keys
to increasing your child s ability to be organized is to model the use
structure (with flexibility) in your day. Talk about the way that planning
influences your day. Do you keep a calendar or a daily to do list? Knowing
that we have the time, space and materials we need to make dinner, do
the yard work, have a party, or fix something that s broken reduces our
stress level and makes the process more enjoyable. Help your child to
understand the value of having the time, space and materials they need
so that learning becomes more enjoyable.
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